State of Things May

I can't undo the unintentional damage I caused and that bothers me. There is a part of me that just wants to find the perfect words to make it all better to explain myself and rebuild that bridge. And that is the part that has been waking me up in the middle of the night and draining my wine supply. It is also responsible for me putting a pen in the sink to be washed.


What to Expect When Grieving

Expect that you won't know what to do from one moment to the next. Expect that people are going to say stupid things like comparing losing your father to join a club. Expect that you won't be able to sleep or you will over sleep. Expect people to treat you different. Or like nothing at … Continue reading What to Expect When Grieving

Living with Grief

When did you first meet grief? Were you a child or adult? Or somewhere in between? My family introduce me to grief in dull funeral home in Ohio, somewhere near Columbus. It didn't touch me. There was no way for it through the stoic ritual containing it. Everyone was appropriately sad but not too sad. No room for a wondering mind to question because there was no one talking about it. We went to the wake, then the funeral and finally a family reunion. So in a matter of 24 hours, I was introduced to grief and then pushed outside to play with distance cousins.

Night Stalker Too Graphic?

The Netflix docuseries "Night Stalker" has been criticized as being too much for viewers. If it is then we have sanitized the real horror of Richard Ramirez's crimes to the point that we expect no longer to be uncomfortable when dealing them. Richard Ramirez was a monster. He was rapist, a child molester and a … Continue reading Night Stalker Too Graphic?